Many of us have set goals, resolutions, to-dos, etc. for the New Year. We want these changes in our lives. We know what we want and what we need to do to get it. We have the opportunities, energy and time to get it. When it is time for action and time to “do it,” we seem to panic.
Whether or not we achieve the goals we have will depend upon what we do with our time. What we have in life, as well as what we accomplish, is a direct result of the moment to moment choices we make and more importantly do from moment to moment.
People have exactly what they want in their lives. They do not have what they think they want. They have what they actually want. If we really wanted it, we would have it. If we really wanted it, we would do whatever it takes to get. History is filled with those who really wanted it.
Sgt. Ernie Bilko on The Phil Silvers Show mused, “Henry Ford said, “I’m going to invent the automobile,” and Arthur T. Flanken said, “But…”
Change is hard. I get it. Mankind is drawn to comfort. It is the choice most make. Change is uncomfortable. In order to grow and change, we have to be uncomfortable until we become comfortable in the new state.
Life is full of distractions. It would be unfair of me to not admit that distractions can be positive or negative. There can be wonderful opportunities as well as wastes of time. You may choose a positive distraction from time to time. You may even choose a negative distraction. I want you to remember that everything that is not a step towards your goal is a distraction from your goal.
I want to lose weight but that cake looks good. I want to learn a new language but that new show everyone is talking about is ready to binge watch. I want to grow my business but I’ve got to check my social media. I want to save for a vacation trip but those new shoes look cool. We often use that word “but” to justify a distraction and let us slip back into the comfort zone rather being temporarily uncomfortable. We can’t let our “buts” keep us from action and discomfort. So how do we get off our “buts”?
A simple question helps – Which do I want more: _____(insert distraction) or my goal? The little things, the steps or disciplines we need to do to reach our goals may be tiring, boring or even hard and compared to the shiny distraction, the distraction will win every time. If you compare the distraction to your goal, that is different. You now have a real choice – not what is appealing in the moment to what is unappealing at the moment but a comparison of a temporary pleasure to a grander and lasting change. The choice changes from “cat videos or make five sales calls” to “cat videos or $1 million in revenue.” Asking the question this way can help us get off our “buts”.
This blog allows you to experience the raw, gut wrenching drama of human conflict through accounting in each of its three stages: preparing to do battle, the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat.